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My Tryst with 'Papahood'

May 16, 2010
Ramendra Kumar

Fatherhood often brings you up-front with your own foolishness, fallibility and frailty.

When my daughter Ankita was a few months old my wife Madhavi decided since I was of no use in the feeding and bum washing departments, I should at least help in putting her to sleep.

Now Ankita was a night creature from day one. While she slept like a twig (obviously for anyone as cute and dainty and delicate as my daughter ‘log’ can hardly be used as a simile!) during the day, she was in the mood to ‘party’ at night. I was assigned the job to keep the little one engaged for a couple of hours while the big one got her 80 winks.

Unfortunately Ankita didn’t like my mug one bit. The minute I picked her up she would bawl her head off. And it was really amazing that one who was barely as heavy as my wife’s left wrist could stir up such a racket. But stir up she did and Madhavi would wake up give me a mother of all dirty looks (If looks could kill I have had as many obituaries as Mayawati has statues in her park)

As nights passed, I tried everything to win Ankita’s confidence: doing calisthenics, making faces, creating sounds and even yodelling. The result was the same. She would just howl and continue doing so until Mother Madhavi would come and rescue her from the clutches of Attila the Papa/ Papa the Barbarian.

A few months went up and my next assignment was administering Ankita mini-feeds. I remember very clearly the first time I had to do it. I sat on the floor of the living room with Ankita sitting in front of me. I gave her a big spoon and a small plate so that she could beat them together and create the euphony she always delighted in achieving. Then I took one spoon of the gooey mix which fate and Madhavi had ordained should be her diet. I fed her making all the right noises and faces which I had seen Mother Madhavi do. Ankita swallowed a mouthful and a strange gleam lit up her eyes. I was thrilled. I had at last succeeded in crossing a significant in my career as a responsible and responsive father. The next moment she made a funny sound and spat the entire mouthful of the gooey stuff on my face. I was too stunned to react, but Ankita wasn’t. I don’t know how much she understood the pitiable predicament of a poor Papa but she burst into peals of laughter. I cursed silently and went back to round two. Caesar might have backed off, Napolean would have given up, but how could a die hard Papa who is also a Virgo like yours truly, capitulate.

This time Ankita was kinder. She took three spoonfuls and just as a look of triumph started suffusing my face it happened. Splat! This time she had deposited three times the yuck on my face and was grinning and beating her gong with even greater abandon.

“Idiot!” I shouted and hell broke loose. Ankita screamed like she had never screamed before, my mother-in-law who had chosen this rather delicate moment to pay us a surprise visit hollered and Madhavi came charging from the kitchen like a bull after an unfortunate rodeo.

I sat with my head bowed, a picture of remorse.

My mother in law declared, under her breath of course, “This is what happens when you marry outside the caste.” Madhavi had the ‘trust you to mess up even the simplest of tasks look’ on her face and my angel Ankita kept glaring at me as if I, not she, had bathed me in muck!

My first chance at redeeming myself in the eyes of my dear family came a full two years later.

“You write satire and poetry don’t you? Then why can’t you tell Ankita stories and put her to sleep,” Madhavi told me one day. To her shifting from satire/poetry to children’s fiction was as simple as moving from the realm of the boiled to the world of the poached egg.

Anyway, I took her rather broad hint seriously and started thinking up little tales to tell my little one. I don’t know whether she liked more the plot or my antics, but she lapped up my stories and my confidence grew. Soon it became a tradition which continued even after my son Aniket grew up and doubled the size of my audience. . The stories liked by my kids found their way to the laptop and from there to the publisher’s desk.

Our daily tryst with tales created indelible memories. Sitting on the bed, on long summer nights, cold winter evenings and rain drenched twilights we used to laugh, jump, sing, dance and yes sometimes shed a tear or two as we explored the world of magic and mystery, action and adventure, sentiment and values. The tales created a gossamer fabric of trust and togetherness which, I am sure, we shall always cherish.

Even today, when the kids have entered the terrible teens, I look back upon those precious vignettes of sharing and caring and my eyes grow misty.
Yes, if Papahood often confronts you with your own frailties it also gives you moments of pristine joy, pride and esteem. If Papahood defined me as gauche and uncouth it also gave me the prized title of Papa Scheherazade!

Ramendra Kumar is an award winning writer for children with 15 books to his name. He also dabbles in satire, poetry and fiction. His work has been published and reviewed in major newspapers and magazines and translated into several Indian languages as well as Japanese, Spanish, Basque, Sinhala and Mongolian. He is also an inspirational and motivational speaker for children.
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